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Are you looking to resolve matters arising on separation or divorce in a non-confrontational way for the benefit of the whole family?

I have worked as a family lawyer and mediator for over 20 years and as a collaborative lawer since 2006 and I can help you.


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Mediation is voluntary and requires the consent of both of you before it can take place.


Conversations that take place in mediation are confidential and cannot be relied on in any subsequent court proceedings.


A mediator is impartial and remains objective and unemotional, encouraging constructive communication.


Decisions are made by both of you and the power to control the outcome belongs to both of you.

What happens next?

The first step is to identify whether mediation is a suitable process for you both.  This is done by me speaking to you each separately at an intake meeting so this can be decided.

If mediation is not suitable then I will sign the relevant court form to confirm that you have complied with your obligation to attend a MIAM.

If mediation is suitable then I will hold a similar meeting with your partner. If you both elect to go ahead with the mediation process then I will arrange a joint meeting and I will ask you both to sign an Agreement to Mediate.

How long will it take?

Each joint mediation session usually lasts for 90 minutes. It generally takes between three and five mediation sessions to conclude the process. The sessions will be held at intervals chosen by you.

What is a Memorandum of Understanding and Open Financial Summary?

Once you have made decisions in mediation I will record these in a document known as a Memorandum of Understanding. This document is legally privileged and confidential. You can each take it to your appointed solicitor who will be able to prepare a Consent Order and file this at Court for you.

If you have discussed financial matters in mediation then I will also prepare a summary of the documents provided during the process and a schedule setting out your financial circumstances. This document can be used by each of you in subsequent court proceedings should mediation break down for any reason.

What if my ex won’t go to mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary process. If the former partner is unwilling to attend mediation then I can discuss alternative processes with you. These include solicitor led negotiations, collaborative law, arbitration and court proceedings.

How can I prepare myself for mediation?

Deciding to come into mediation isn’t easy.  You know you want to do your best to find solutions with your ex but that could be easier said than done. You may feel anxious talking to your ex about things which are important to each of you.   You may be nervous that you won’t be able to find an outcome which is acceptable to you both? 

So how are you going to prepare yourself for mediation?  Read my article here.

Please keep yourselves safe during the current coronavirus threat.  During this period I will be offering MIAMs by video call and substantive mediation in appropriate cases.

As your mediator, my aim is to help you both negotiate constructively by providing tools and information so you can make mutually acceptable decisions about arrangements for the future in a calm and informed way.

Your mediation questions answered

"I found mediation to be completely fair and equal to both parties. I felt comfortable and confident in the meetings, and not intimidated at all.  

The process was calm and much less stressful than I thought it would be. The process of separating was frightening, but legal issues and formal processes were explained and simplified so I could understand. Between meetings I had time to reflect and I could re-address issues at the next meeting if I wanted to. 

Following the breakdown of my marriage, I felt myself and ex-partner could not communicate effectively about issues that needed to be agreed. Mediation gave us a neutral and professional platform to find conclusions. It helped me to see things from my ex partners point of view and allowed us both to compromise. Mediation helped us to reach the best possible outcome for our children's futures and wellbeing. The mediation process was tailored to us and the issues we wanted to agree on. 

I would definitely recommend mediation to find a fair solution for both parties." Philippa

    Collaborative Family Lawyer Mediator Resolution Member


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