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Mediation FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

You may have many questions at what is already a challenging time. I've answered some of the most regularly asked ones below, but please do get in touch if you have further queries by calling 07500 080361 or emailing

What happens next?

The first step is to identify whether mediation is a suitable process for you both.  This is done by me speaking to you each separately at an intake meeting so this can be decided.

If mediation is not suitable then I will sign the relevant court form to confirm that you have complied with your obligation to attend a MIAM.

If mediation is suitable then I will hold a similar meeting with your partner. If you both elect to go ahead with the mediation process then I will arrange a joint meeting and I will ask you both to sign an Agreement to Mediate.

How long will it take?

Each joint mediation session usually lasts for 90 minutes. It generally takes between three and five mediation sessions to conclude the process. The sessions will be held at intervals chosen by you.

What is a Memorandum of Understanding and Open Financial Summary?

Once you have made decisions in mediation I will record these in a document known as a Memorandum of Understanding. This document is legally privileged and confidential. You can each take it to your appointed solicitor who will be able to prepare a Consent Order and file this at Court for you.

If you have discussed financial matters in mediation then I will also prepare a summary of the documents provided during the process and a schedule setting out your financial circumstances. This document can be used by each of you in subsequent court proceedings should mediation break down for any reason.

What if my ex won’t go to mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary process. If the former partner is unwilling to attend mediation then I can discuss alternative processes with you. These include solicitor led negotiations, collaborative law, arbitration and court proceedings.

How can I prepare myself for mediation?

Deciding to come into mediation isn’t easy.  You know you want to do your best to find solutions with your ex but that could be easier said than done. You may feel anxious talking to your ex about things which are important to each of you.   You may be nervous that you won’t be able to find an outcome which is acceptable to you both? 

So how are you going to prepare yourself for mediation?  Read my article here.

 I offer all MIAMs online as well as substantive mediation sessions in appropriate  cases.

As your mediator, my aim is to help you both negotiate constructively by providing tools and information so you can make mutually acceptable decisions about arrangements for the future in a calm and informed way.

Your mediation questions answered

"Mediation kept us focused on the discussions we needed to have.  Having a third party present who was impartial helped our communication and we really listened to each other’s point of view. 

Sandra was highly professional throughout with an action focused style which was encouraging and produced results.  Although mediation is not a cheap process, it was much cheaper than the alternative of litigation and provided a sense of control over the outcome.

I would recommend mediation to others for many reasons not least because it enables discussions to be had about highly difficult issues as two adults/parents and to agree solutions that work on both sides." JP

    Collaborative Family Lawyer Mediator Resolution Member


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